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ver long; in that case, if you do not please, at least you are sure not to tire your hearers.*

*There are many persons who never know whon to leave off prating; and, like a ship which, once put in motion by the force of the winds, even when the sails are furled, will not stop,-so these loquacious people, being carried on by a certain impulse, continue their career; and though they have nothing to talk of, they nevertheless proceed; and either inculcate over and over again what they have already said, or utter at random whatever comes uppermost.

There are also some people who labour under so great and insatiable an appetite for talking, that they will interrupt others when they are going to speak; and as we sometimes see, on a farmer's dunghill in the country, young chickens snatching grains of corn out of each other's little bills, so these people catch up the discourse out of the mouth of another, who has begun speaking, and immediately hold forth themselves; which is so provoking to some people, that they would rather interchange blows than words with them, and rather fight than converse with them; for, if you accurately observe the humours of mankind, there is nothing which sooner, or more certainly, provokes a man, than the giving a sudden check to his desires and inclinations, even in the most trifling affair.

Now, as an immoderate loquacity, or love of talking, gives disgust, so too great a taciturnity, or an affected silence, is very disagreeable; for to observe a haughty silence, where others take their turn in the conversation, seems to be nothing else than unwillingness to contribute your share to the common entertainment: and as to speak is to open your mind, as it were, to those that hear you, he, on the contrary, who is entirely silent, seems to shunt all acquaintance with the rest of the company. Wherefore, as those people who, at their entertainments on any joyful occasion, drink freely, and perhaps get drunk, love to get rid of people who will not drink, so no one desires

Learn the characters of the company before you talk much.

Inform yourself of the characters and situations of the company before you give way to what your imagination may prompt you to say. There are in all companies more wrong heads than right ones, and many more who deserve, than who like, censure. Should you therefore expatiate in the praise of some virtue, which some in company notoriously want, or declaim against any vice which others are notoriously infected with, your reflections, however general and unapplied, will, by being applicable, be thought personal, and levelled at those people. This consideration points out to you sufficiently not to be suspicious and captious yourself, nor to suppose that things, because they may, are therefore meant at, you.

Telling stories and digressions.

Tell stories very seldom, and absolutely never but where they are very apt, and very short. Omit every circumstance that is not material, and beware of digressions. To have frequent recourse to narrative, betrays great want of imagination.*

to see these silent gentry in their cheerful, friendly meetings: the most agreeable society, therefore, is that where every one is at liberty to speak or keep silence in his turn.-Galateo.

*If you have a mind to relate any thing in company, it is proper, before you begin, to have the whole story, whether a piece of history or any late occurrence, well settled in your mind; as also, every name and expression ready at hand, that you may not be obliged every B

Seizing people by the button.

Never hold any body by the button, or the hand, in order to be heard out, for if people are not will

moment to interrupt your narration, and inquire of other people, and beg their assistance; sometimes in regard to the fe itself. sometimes the names of persons, and other circumstances, of what you have undertaken to recite.

Bet, if you are to relate any thing which was said or cione" amongst any number of people, you ought not too frequently to use the expressions of He said.' or 'He replied; because these pronouns agree equally with all the persons concerned; and this ambiguity must neces sarily lead the audience into an error. It is proper therefore that he who relates any fact should make use of some proper names, and take care not to change them one for another during the narration.

Moreover, the reciter of any incident ought to avoid the mentioning those circumstances, which, if omitted, the story would not be less, or rather, would be more greeable without them. The person speak of was son of Mr. Such-a-one, who lives in St. James-street; do you know the man? His wife was daughter to Mr. Such-a-one, she was a thin woman, who used to come. constantly to prayers at St. Lawrence's church: you must certainly know her.-Zounds! if you do not know her, you know nothing! Or, 'He was a handsome, tall old gentleman, who wore his own long hair: do not you recollect him?-Now, if the very same thing might as well have happened to any other person which happened to him, all this long disquisition were to little purpose; nay, must be very tedious and provoking to the audience; who being impatient to arrive at a complete knowledge of the affair which you have begun upon, you seem de termined to delay the gratifying their curiosity as long as possible.-Galateo.

ing to hear you, you had much better hold your tongue than they.*

Long talkers and whisperers.

Long talkers generally single out some unfortunate man in company to whisper, or at least, in a half voice, to convey a continuity of words to. This is excessively ill-bred, and, in some degree, a fraud; conversation-stock being a joint and common property. But if one of these unmerciful talkers lays hold of you, hear him with patience, (and at least with seeming attention,) if he is worth obliging; for nothing will oblige him more than a patient hearing, as nothing would hurt him more, than either to leave him in the midst of his discourse, or to discover your impatience under your affliction.

Inattention to persons speaking.

There is nothing so brutally shocking, nor, so little forgiven, as a seeming inattention to the person who is speaking to you;† and I have known many a man knocked down for a much slighter provocation than that inattention which I mean. I have

* When you are talking to any one, do not be continually punching him in the side, as some people are who, after every sentence, keep asking the person they are conversing with, 'Did not. I tell you so?" 'What do you think of the matter? What say you, sir?' and in the mean time they are every moment jogging and thrusting him with their elbow; which cannot be considered as a mark of respect.-Galateo.

It is also a very disagreeable practice to interrupt a person by any noise in the midst of his speech; which, indeed, must give the person interrupted much the same pleasure as it would give you, if, when you were just

seen many people, who, while you are speaking to them, instead of looking at and attending to you, fix their eyes upon the ceiling, or some other part of the room, look out of the window, play with a dog, twirl their snuff-box, or pick their nose. Nothing discovers a little, futile, frivolous mind more than this, and nothing is so offensively ill-bred; it is an explicit declaration on your part, that every the most trifling object deserves your attention more than all that can be said by the person who is speak

reaching the goal in full speed, any one should suddenly draw you back.

Neither is it consistent with good manners, when another person is speaking, that you should contrive, either by showing something new, or by calling the attention of the company another way, to make him neglected and forsaken by his audience.

Neither does it become you to dismiss the company, who were not invited by you, but by some other person.

You ought also to be attentive, when any one is talking to you, that you may not be under the necessity of. asking every moment, What do you say?' 'How did you say under which fault, indeed, many people labour; when yet this is not attended with less trouble to the speaker than if, in walking, he were every moment to kick his foot against a stone. All these practices, and, in general, whatever may check the speaker in his course, whether directly or obliquely, are carefully to be avoided.

And if any one be somewhat slow in speaking, you ought not to forestall him, or supply him with proper words, as if you alone were rich and he were poor in expressions; for many people are apt to take this ill, those especially who have an opinion of their own eloquence; and therefore they think you do not pay them that deference which they imagine to be their due, and that you are desirous of suggesting hints to them in that art, in which they fancy themselves great proficients.-Galateo.

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