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HUMOUROUS, MORAL AND LITERARY".
TO JOHN ALLEYNE, ESQ.
X OU desire, you say, my impartial thoughts on the subject of an early marriage, by way of answer to the numberless objections that have been made by numerous persons to your own. You may remember, when you consulted me on the occasion, that I thought youth on both sides to be no objection. Indeed, from the marriages that have fallen under my observation, I am rather inclined to think, that early ones stand the best chance of happiness. The; temper ?.nd habits of the young are not yet become so stiff and uncomplying, as when more advanced in life; they form more easily to each other, and hence many occasions of disgust are removed. | And if youth has less of that prudence which is necessary to manage a family, yet the parents and elder friends of young mar.ried persons are generally at hand to offer their advice, which amply supplies that defect; and by early marriage, youth is sooner formed to regular and useful life; and possibly some op those accidents or connections, that might have injured the constitution, or reputation, or both, are thereby happily prevented. Particular circumstances of particular persons, may possibly sometimes make it prudent to delay entering into that state; but in general, when nature has rendered our bodies fit for it, the presumption is in nature's favour, that she has not judged amiss in making us desire it. Late marriages are often atrended, too, with this further inconvenience,' that there is not the same chance that the parents shall livetosee their offspring educated. "Late children," s;iys the Spanish proverb, "are early orphans." A melancholy reflection to those whose case it^may be! With us in America, marriages are generally in the morning of life % our children are therefore educated and settled in. the world by noon ; and thus, our business being done, we have an afternoon and evening of cheerful leisure to ourselves, such as our friend at present enjoys. By these early marriages we are blessed with more children; and from the mode among us, founded by nature, pf every mother suckling and nursing her own child, more of them are raised. Thence the swift progress of population among us, unparalleled in Europe. In fine, I am glad you are married and congratulate you most cordially upon it. You are now fa the way of becoming a useful citizen : and you have escaped the unnatural state of celibacy for life—the fate of many here, who never inten, ded it, but who having too long postponed the