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SPECTATOR.

VOL. III.

N° 170. Friday, September 14. 1711.

In amore hac omnia insunt vitia : injuria,
Sufpiciones, inimicitie, inducia,
Bellum, pax rursum

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PON looking over the Letters of my

fer male Correspondents, I find several from Women complaining of jealous Husbands, and at the fame Time protesting their own Innocence; and desiring my Advice on

this Occasion. I shall therefore take this Subject into my Consideration; and the more willingly, because I find that the Marquiss of Hallifax, who in his Advice to a Daughter, has instructed a Wife how to behave her self towards a false, an intemperate, a cholerick, a sullen, a covetous or a filly Husband, has not spoken one Word of a jealous Husband.

JEALOUST is that Pain which à Man feels from the Apprehension that he is not equally beloved by the Person whom he entirely loves. Now, because our inwar Pallions and Inclinations can never make themselves

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visible, it is impossible for a jealous Man to be throughly cured of his Suspicions. His Thoughts hang at best in a State of Doubtfulness and Uncertainty; and are never capable of receiving any Satisfaction on the adyantagious

so that his Enquiries are most successful when they discover nothing: His Pleasure arises from his Difappointments, and his Life is spent in Pursuit of a Secret that destroys his Happiness if he chance to find it.

AN ardent Love is always a ftrong Ingredient in this Passion; for the same Affe&tion which stirs

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the jealous Man's Defires, and gives the Party beloved so beautiful a Figure in his Imagination, makes him believe the kindles she same Passion in others, and appears as amiable to all Beholders. And as Jealousy thus arises from an extraordipary Love, it is of so delicate a Nature, that it scorns to raké up with any thing less than an equal return of Love. Not the warm eft Expressions of Affection, the softeft and most tender Hypocrisy, are able to give any Satisfa&tion, where we are not perswaded that the Afe&ion is real and the Satisfadion mutual. For the jealous Mah wishes himself a kind of Deity to the Person he loves: He would be the only Pleasure of her Senses, the Em. ployment of her Thoughts; and is angry at every thing The admires, or takes Delight in, besides himself, PHÆDRIA's Request to his Mistress," upon

his leaving her for three Days, is inimitably beautiful and natural..

Cum milite ifto presens, abfens ut sies:
Dies, noctesque

me ames : me desideres :
Me Somnes : me exspectes : de me cogites:
Mesperes me te oblectes : mecum tota fis:
Meus fac sis poftremo animus, quando ego fum tuus.

Ter, Eun. THE jealous Man's Disease is of fo malignant a Natare, that it converts all he takes into its own Nourishment. A cool Behaviour sets him on the Rack, and is intterpreted as an Inftance of Aversion or Indifference; a fond one raises his Sufpicions, and looks too much like Diffiinulation and Artifice. If the Person he loves be cheerful, ber Thoughts must be employed on another

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and if fad, fhe is certainly thinking on himself. In short, there is no Word or Gelture lo inlignificant, but it gives him new Hints, feeds his Suspicions, and furnishes him with fresh Matters of Difcovery: So that if we consider, the Effects of this Passion, one would rather think it proceeded from an inveterate Hatred than an exceffive Love; for certainly none can meet with more Disquietude and Uneafinels than a suspected Wife, if we except the jealous Husband.

BUT the great Unhappiness of this passion is, that it naturally tends to alienate the Affe&tion which it is fo: follicitous to engross; and that for these two Reasons, because it lays too great a Conftraint on the Words and Adions of the suspected Perfon, and at the same time fhews you have no honourable Opinion of her; both of which are strong Motives to Aversion,

NOR is this the worst Effect of Jealousy; for it ofor ten draws atter 'it à mone fatal Train of Consequencesz, and makes the Person you fufpe&t, guilty of the very Crimes you are so much afraid of. It is very natural for such who are treated ill and upbraided falsely, to find our an intimate Friend that will hear their Complaints, condole their Sufferings, and endeavour to footh and asswage their secret Resentments. Besides, Jealousy puts a Wo. man often in Mind of an ill Thing that she would not otherwise perbaps have thought of, and fills her Imagination with such an unlucky Idea; as in time grows familiar, excites Defire, and loses all the Shame and Horror which might at first attend it. Nor is it a Wonder, if she who suffers wrongfully in a Man's Opinion of her, and has therefore nothing to forfeit in his Efteem, resolves to give him Reason for his Sufpicions, and to enjoy the Pleafüre of the Crimej fince the must undergo the Igno. miny. Such probably were the Confiderations that directa od the Wife Man in his Advice to Husbands, Be: not jeans lous over the Wife of thy Bosom, and teach her not an evil Leffon against thy felf. Ecclur.

AND here among the other Torments which this Laffion produces, we may usually oblerve that none are? greater Mourners than jealous Men, when the Perfon who provoked their Jealousy is taken from them. Thens it is that their Love break's out furiously, and throws 1

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{ off all the Mixtures of Suspicion which choaked and. smothered it before. The beautiful Parts of the Character rise uppermost in the Jealous Husband's Memory, and upbraid him with the ill Usage of fo divine a Creaa ture as was once in his Possession; whilft all the little Imperfections that were before so uneasy to him, wear off from his Remembrance, and shew themselves no

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WE may see by what has been said, that. Jealousy. takes the deepest Root in Men of amorous Difpofitions; and of these we may find three Kinds who are most overrun with it.

THE First are those who are conscious to themselves. of any Infirmity, whether it be Weakness, Old Age, Deforinity, Ignorance, or the like. These Men are so well acquainted with the unamiable Part of themselves, that they have not the Confidence to think they are really beloved; and are so diftruftful of their own Merits, that all Fondness towards them puts them out of Countenance, and looks like a Jest upon their Persons. They grow fufpicious on their first looking in a Glass, and are ftung with Jealousy at the sight of a Wrinkle. A handsome Fellow immediately alarms them, and every thing that looks young or gay turns their Thoughts upon their Wives.

A Second Sort of Men, who are most liable to this Pase fion, are those of cunning, wary, and diftrufful Tempers. It is a fault very justly found in Histories composed by Politicians, that they leave nothing to Chance or Hue" moar, but are fill for deriving every A&tion from some Plot and Contrivance, for drawing up a perpetual Scheme of Causes and Events, and preserving a constant Correspondence between the Camp and the Courcil-Table. And thus it happen in the Affairs of Love with Men of 100 refined a Thought. They put a Construction on a Look, and find out a Design in a Smile; they give new Senses and Significations to Words and A&tions, and are ever tormenting themselves with Fancies of their own raising. They generally act in a Disguise themselves, and therefore mistake all outward Shows and Appearances for Hypocrify in others; fo that I believe no Men fee less of the Truth and Reality of Things, than these great Re

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