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finers upon Incidents, who are so wonderfully subtle and over-wise in their Conceptions." · NOW what these Men faacy they know of Women by Reflection, your lewd and vicious Men believe they have learned by Experience. They have seen the poor Husband fo mis-led' by Tricks and Artifices, and in the midst of his Enquiries lo loft and bewildered in a crooked Intrigue, that they still suspect an Under-Plot in every female Action; and especially where they fee any Refemblance in the Behaviour of two Persons, are apt to fancy it proceeds from the fame Design in both. These Men therefore bear hard upon the Tulpected Party, pursue her clofe through all her Turnings and Windings, and are too well acquainted with the chace, to be flung off by any false Steps or Doubles: Besides, their Acquaintance and Conversation has lain wholly among the vicious Part of Womankind, and therefore it is no wonder they cenfure all alike,' and look upon the whole Sex as a species of Impoftors. But if, notwithstanding their private Experi. ence, they can get over these Prejudices, and entertain a favourable Opinion of some 'Women; yet their own loose Desires will ftir up new Suspicions from another Side, and make them believe all Men subject to the fame Ir.clinations with themselves.

WHETHER these or other Motives are most predominant, we learn from the modern Histories of Ame. rica, as well as from our own Experience in this part of the World, that Jealousy is no Northern Passion, but rages most in those Nations that lie nearest the Influence of the Sun.' It is a Misfortune for a Woman to be born be. tween the Tropicks; for there lie the hottest Regions of Jealousy, which as you come Northward cools all along with the Climate, till you scarce meet with any thing like it in the Polar Circle. Our own Nation is very temperately, fituated in this respect; and if we meet with some few disordered with the Violence of this Paflion, they are not the proper Growth of our Country, but are many Degrees nearer the Sun in their Conftitutions than in their Climate.

AFTER this frightful Account of Jealouły, and the Perfons who are most subject to it, it will be but fair to thew by what means the Passion may be beft allay'd, and

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those who are poffelled with it fer at Ease Other Faultsindeed are not under the Wife's Jurisdi&ion, and should if possible, escape her Observation, but Jealousy calls upon her particularly for it's Cure, and deferves

all her Art and Application in the Attempt: Besides, she has this for her Encouragement, that her Endeavours will be al ways pleasing, and that she will till find the Affection of her Husband rifing towards her in Proportion as his Doubts and Sufpicions vanish; for, as we have seen all along, there is to great à Mixture of Love in Jealoufy ass *' well worth the separating. But this shall be the Subir jeđ. of another Paper..

NO 171. Saturday, September 15.

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Ovid, Merit AVING in my Yefterday's Paper difcovered the Nature of Jealousy, and pointed out the Perfong

who are most fubje& to it, I muft herë apply my felf to my Fair Correfpondênts, who defire to live well with a jealous Husband, and to ease his Mind of its unjufti Sufpicions.

THE firft Rule I shall propose to be observed is that you never seem to diflike in another what the Jealous. Manis himself guilty of, or to admire any thiøg in which he himself does not excel. A jealous Man is very quick in his Applications, he knows how to find a double Edge in an Invective, and to draw a Satyt on himself out of a Panegyrick on another. He does not trouble himfelt to confider the Person, but to dire& the Character, and is fecretly pleased or confounded as he finds more or less of: himself in it.. The Commendation of any thing in ano: ther, stirs

up his Jealousy, as it shews you have a Váluefor others, besides himself; but the Commendation of that which he himself wants, infamés him more, as it i Phews that in fone Respects you prefer others before him.

Jealousy

Jealoufy is admirably described in this View by Horace.in. his Ode to Lydia.

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Quum tu, Lydia, Telephi

Cervicem rofeam, o cerea. Telephi
Landas brachia, va meum

Şervens difficili bile tumet jecur :
Tunc nec mens mihi, nec color

Certa sede manet; humor e in genas
Furtim labitur arguens

Quam lentis penitus macerer ignibus.
When Telephus his youthful Charms,
His rosie. Neck and winding Arms
With endlefs Rapture you recite,
And in the pleasing Name delight;
My Heart, infiam'd by Fealous Heats,
With numberlefs Refeniments bear
From my pale. Check the Colour fliess

And all the Man within me dies :
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. Turis my hidden Grief appears In rising sighs and falling Tears,

That thew too well the warm Defires - The filent, how, consuming Fires,

Which on my inmoft Vitals prej

And mels: my very. Soul xway.. THE Jealous Man is not indeed angry if you dif: like another: bur if you find thofe Faults which are to be found in his own Character, you discover not only your Difike of another, but of himself. In short, he is só desfirous of engrossing all your Love, that he is grieved at the want of any Charm, which he believes has Power to raise it, and if he finds by: your Cenfures on others, that he is not so agreeable in your opinion as he might be, he naturally concludes you could love him better if he had other Qualifications, and that by Confequence your Affe&tion does not rife fo high as he thinks it ought, if therefore his Temper be grave or sullen, you must not be too much pleased with a Jests or transported with any thing that is gay and diverting. If his Beauty be' none of the beft, you must be a profeffed Admirer of Prudence,

or any other Quality he is Master of, or at least vain e nough to think he is.

IN the next Place, you must be sure to be free and open

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Conversation with him, and to let in Light upon your Actions, to unravel all your Designs, and dilcover every Secret however triffing or indifferent. A jealous Husband has a particular Aversion to Winks and Whispers, and if he does not see to the bottom of every thing, will be fure to go beyond it in his Fears and Suípicions. He will always expect to be your chief Confident, and where he finds himself kept out of a Secret, will believe there is more in it than there should be. And here it is of great Concern, that you preserve the Character of your Sincerity uniform and of a Piece: for if he once finds a false Gloss put upon any single A&ion, he quickly suspects all the reft; his working Imagination immediately takes a falfe Hint, and runs off with it into feveral remote Consequences, till he has proved very ingenious in working out his own Milery.

IF both these Methods fail, the best way will be to let him see you are much cast down and afflicted for the ill Opinion he entertains of you, and the Disquietudes he himself suffers for your Sake. There are many who take a kind of barbarous Pleasure in the Jealousy of those who love them, that insult over an aking Heart, and triumph in their Charms which are able to excite so much Unea

finess.

Ardeat ipsa licet, tormentis gaudet amantis. Juv. But these often carry the Humour so far, till their affected Coldness and Indifference quite kills all the Fondnefs of a Lover, and are then sure to meet in their Turn with all the Contempt and Scorn that is due to so insolent a Bea haviour. On the contrary, it is very probable a melancholy, dejected Carriage, the usual Effects of injured Innocence, may foften the jealous Husband into Pity, make him sensible of the Wrong he does you, and work out of his Mind all those Fears and Suspicions that make you both unhappy. At least it will have this good Effect, that he will keep his Jealousy to himself, and repine in prix Vate, either because he is sensible it is a Weakness, and will therefore hide it from your Knowledge, or because he will be apt to fear some ill Effect it may produce, in cooling your Love towards him, or diverting it to ano. ther.

THERE is still another Secret that can never fail, if you can once get it believ'd, and which is often practisid by Women of greater Cunning than Virtue: This is to change Sides for a while with the jealous Man, and to turn his own Passion upon himself; to take some Occafion of growing jealous of him, and to follow the Example he himself hath set you. This counterfeited Jealousy will bring him a great deal of Pleasure, if he thinks it real; for he knows experimentally how much Love goes along with this Passion, and will besides feel fomething like the Satisfaction of a Revenge, in seeing you undergo all his own Tortures. But this, indeed, is an Artifice so difficult, and at the same time fo dis-ingenuous, that it ought never to be put in Practice, but by such as have Skill enough to cover the Deceit, and Innocence to render it excufable.

I shall conclude this Essay with the Story of Herod and Mariamne, as I have collected it out of Fosephus; which may serve almost as an Example to whatever can be said on this Subject.

MARIAMNE had all the Charms that Beauty, Birth, Wit and Youth could give a Woman, and Herod all the Love that such Charms are able to raise in a warm and amorous Disposition. In the midst of this his Fondness for Mariamne, he put her Brother to Death, as he did her Father not many years, after. The Barbarity of the A&ion was represented to Mark Antony, who immediately summoned Herod into Egypt, to answer for the Crime that was there laid to his Charge. Herod attributed the Summons to Antony's Desire of Mariamne, whom therefore, before his Departure, he gave into the Custody of his Uncle Jofeph, with private Orders to put her to Death, it any such Violence was offered to himself. This Fojeph was much delighted with Mariamne's Conversation, and endeavoured with all his Art and Rhetorick to set out the Excess of Herod's Passion for her ; but when he ftill-found her cold and incredulous, he inconsiderately told her, as a certain Infance of her Lord's Affe&tion, the private Ort

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