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with one in the company. All nods, grimaces, sly looks, and half speeches, the cause of which is not known, are carefully aroided by her, and reprobated as the height of illbreeding, and the grosest insult to the company.

18. Whenever this happens between two persons, the rest of the company have a just right to consider themselves the objects of their ridicule. But it is a maxim of Juliana that such conduct is a breach of politeness, which no oddities or mistakes that happen in public company, can excuse or palliate.

19. It is very common for persons who are destiinte of eertain accomplishments which they admire in other people, to endeavor to imitate them. This is the source of affectation, a fault that infallibly exposes a person to ridicule. But the ornaments of the heart, the dress and the manners of Juliana, are equally easy and natural.

20. She need not assume the appearance of good qualities which she possesses in reality ; nature has given too many beauties to her person, to require the studied embellishments of fashion ; and such are the ease and gracefulness of her behavior, that any attempt to improve them would lessen the dignity of her inanners.

21. She is equally a stranger to that supercillious importance which affects to despise the small, but necessary concerns of life ; and that squeamish false delicacy which is wounded with every trifle.

22. She will not neglect a servant in sickness because of the moanness of his employment ; she will not abuse an animal for her own pleasure and amusement ; nor will she go into fits at the distress of a favorite cat.

23. Her gentle soul is never disturbed with discontent, envy or resentment ; those turbulent passions which so often destroy the peace of society as well as of individuals.Her native firmness and serenity of mind forbid the intrusion of violent emotions; at the same time her heart, susceptible and kind, is the soft residence of every virtuous affection.

24. She sustains the unavoidable shocks of adversity, with a calmness that indicates the superiority of her soul; and with a smile of joy or tear of tenderness, she partici-. pates the pleasures or the sorrows of a friend.

25. But the discretion and generosity of Juliana are particularly distinguished by the number and sincerity of her

attachments. Her friendships are few, but they are all founded on the principles of benevolence and fidelity. Such confidence do lier sincerity, her constancy, and her faithfulness inspire, that her friends commit to her breast their most private concerns, without suspicion.

26. It is her favorite niaxim, that a necessity of exacting promises of secrecy, is a burlesque upon every pretension to friendship. Such is the character of the young, the amiable Juliana.

27. If it is possible for her to find a man who knows her worth, and has a disposition and virtues to reward it, the union of their hearts must secure that unmingled felicity in life, which is reserved for genuine love, a passion inspired by sensibility, and improved by a perpetual intercourse of kind offices.

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RULES FOR BEHAVIOR. 1.

mand and direct your attention to the present objects and let distant objects be banished from the mind. There is time enough for every thing in the course of the day, if you do but one thing at once ; but there is not time enough in the year,

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you will do two things at a time. 2. Never attempt to tell a story with which you are not well acquainted ; nor fatigue your hearers with relating lito tle trifing circumstances. Do not interrupt the thread of discourse with a thousand hems, and by repeating often says he, and said I. Relate the principal points with clearness and precision, and you will be heard with pleasure.

3. There is a difference between modesty and bashfulness. Modesty is the characteristic of an amjable mind ; bashfulness discovers a degree of meanness. Nothing sinks a young man into low company so surely as bashfulness.

4. If he thinks he shall not please, he most surely will not. Vice and ignorance are the only things we ought to be ashamed of; while we keep clear of them, we may venture any where without fear of concem.

5. Frequent good company copy their manners-imi. tate their virtues and accomplishments.

6. Be not very free in your remarks upon characters. There may be in all companies, more wrong heads than right ones ; more people who will deserve, than who will bear censure.

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7. Never hold any body by the button or the hand, in order to be heard through your story; for if the people are Tot willing to hear you, you had much better hold your tongue than hold them.

8. Never Whisper in company. Conversation is common 1700 to stock, in which all persons present have a right to claim

their share. Always listen when you are spoken to ; and

never interrupt a speaker. sher 9. Be not forward in leading the conversatior.—this bee belongs to the oldest person in company. Display your

in learning only on particular occasions. Never oppose the pred opinion of another but with great modesty.

10. On all occasions avoid speaking of yourself, if it is possible. Nothing that we can say of ourselves will varnish our defects, or add lustre to our virtues ; but on the contrary, it will often make the former more visible, and the latter,

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11. Be frank, open, and ingenious in your behavior, and always look people in the face when you speak to then Never receive nor retail scandal. In scandal, as in robbery, the receiver is as bad as the thief.

12. Never reflect upon bodies of men, either clergymen, lawyers, physicians, or soldiers : nor upon nations and soci

tties. There are good as well as bad, in all orders of meny da and in all countries.

13. Mimicry is a common and favorite amusement of low minds, but should be despised by ali great ones. Wc should neither practice it ourselves nor praise it in others. your expenses be less than your

income. d; 14. A fool squanders away without credit or advantage

to himself, more than a man of sense spends with both... A

wise man employs his money as he does his time, he never uspends a shilling of the one, nor a minute of the other, but

in something that is either useful or rationally pleasing-
The fool buys what he does not want, but does not pay for
what he stands in need of.
15. Forin no friendships hastily. Study a character well

you put confidence in the person. Every person is entitled to civility, but very few to confidence. The Spanish proverb says, “ Teil whom you live with, and I will tell you who you arc.” The English say, “A man is known by the company he keeps."

16. Good breeding does not consist in low bows, an!

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formal ceremony; But in an easy, civil, and respectful be havior.

17. A well bred man is polite to every person, but particularly to strangers. In mixed companies every person who is admitted, is supposed to be on a footing of equality with the rest, and consequently claims very justly every mark of civility.

18. Be very attentive to neatness. The hands, nails, and teeth should be kept clean. A dirty mouth is not only disagrecable, as it occasions an offensive breath, but almost infallibly causes a decay and loss of teeth.

19. Never put your fingers in your nose or ears—it is a vulgar rudeness and an affront to company. '.

20. Be not a sloven in dress, nor a fop. Let your dress be neat, and as fashionable as your circumstances and convenience will admit. It is sai:l that a man who is negligent at t:veniy years of age, will be a sloven at forty, and intol. lerable at fifty. 21. Ilis necessary sometimes to be in haste

but always Trong to be in a hurry. A man in a hurry perplexes him. self; he wants to do every thing at once, and does nothing at all.

22. Frequent and loud laughter, is the characteristic of folly and ill manners.it is the manner in which silly people express thcir joy at silly things.

23. Humming a tune within yourself, drumming with your fingers, making a noise with the feet, whistling, and such aukward habits, are all breaches of good manners, and indications of contempt for the persons present.

24. When you meet people in the sireet, or in a public place, never stare them full in the face.

25. When you are in company with a stranger, never begin to question him about bis name, his place of residence, and his business. This impudent curiosity is the height of isl manners,

25. Some persons apoligize, in a good natured manner, for their inquisitiveress, by an, “ If I nray be so bold;" “If I may take the liberty ;”, cr, Pray, Sir, cxcuse my freedom.-_These attempts to excuse one's self, imply: that a man thinks himself an impudent fellow-and if he does not, other people think he is, and treat loin as such.

27. Above ail adhere to murals and religion, with in moveable firmness. Whatever efteci cutward show and Accomplishments may have, in recommending a man to others, none but the good is really happy in himself. PAMILY DISAGREEMENTS, the frequent cause of ImmORAL

CONDUCT. FTER all our complaints of the uncertainty of hu1. · Ah

man affairs, it is undoubtedly true, that more misery is produced among us by the irregularities of our tempers, than by real misfortunes.

2. And it is a circumstance particularly unhappy, that these irregularities of the temper, are most apt to display themselves at our fire-sides, where every thing cught to be tranquil and serene.

3. But the truth is, we are aweol by the presence of strangers, and are afraid of appearing weak and ill-natured, when we act in sight of the world ; and so very heroically, reserve all our ill-humor for our wives, chiklren, and servants. We are meek, where we might meet with opposition ; but feel ourselves undauntedly bold, where we are sure of no effectual resistance.

4. The preservation of the best things converts them to the worst. Home is certainly well adapted to repose and solid enjoyment. Among parents and brothers, and all the tender charities of private life, the genter affections, which are always attended with feelings purely and permanently pleasurable, find en ample scope for proper exertien.

5. The experienced have often declared, after wearying themselves in pursuing phantoms, that they have found a substantial happiness in the domestic circle. Hither they have returned from their wild excursions in the regions of dissipation, as the bird, after fluttering in the air, descends into her nest, to partake and increase its genial warmth with her young ones.

6. Such and so swect are the comforts of home, when not perverted by the folly and weakness of man. Indifference, and a carelessness on the subject of pleasing those whom it is our best interest to please, often renderit a scene of dulness and insipidity.

7. Happy wouid it be if the evil extended no farther. But the transition from tl:e negative state of not being plcased, to positive iil-Iumor, is Lut too easy. Fretfulness and peevishness arise, as nettles vegetate, spontaneously,

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